This is the story of Corey whose mum and dad were worried about him because he was struggling at college, spent too much time alone in his room and was generally uncommunicative. Well, that’s what they thought anyway. Corey’s mum had had a Talent Dynamics profile test done 12 months before and loved the difference that it made to her when she discovered she was a Mechanic profile. Because her son was doing engineering, seemed to like to be by himself and didn’t really engage that much in conversation she assumed that he must also have a lot of steel energy and be either a Lord or Mechanic and in order to try and get through to him both mum and dad communicated with lots of details, facts, figures, measures and so on. And wondered why they just got a grunt back!
A few weeks ago, when things were really coming to a head at home and at college Corey had the opportunity to be profiled too. And boy, were they in for a surprise! He is not a Lord or Mechanic, he’s totally a Star! Mum and dad were really shocked at the time but then, it all started to make sense!
Out of curiosity they began to change their communication style with him started to show him information, talk to him bigger picture and not go in to lots of detail about everything – and low and behold he’s starting engaging in the conversation again to their delight. Mum realized that the exams that he had really excelled in had been oral exams where he had to present the topic and speak about the subject and he loved the attention and found it really easy. It made her think back to when he was little and would read him stories and it was the short stories he loves not the long ones with lots of facts in them. She thought back to his prom and how he was the one who had chosen not only a really loud suit to wear but insisted on the awesome top hat that went with it.
With this new found knowledge of who Corey really is life is beginning to change. Not only are they talking to him in different ways but they are encouraging him to explore job roles that are more in line with his Star profile.
If he is going to do engineering as a career perhaps his role will be in promoting new ideas, new systems, shining the light on the engineering world and it’s accomplishments. They are encouraging him to start a video blog reviewing and promoting new games, and advancements in technology. He has a great way with words, loves to be on camera and is awesome at sharing what’s good about a product and how to make it even better. Plus he has the technical knowledge to add credibility to his passion and therefore be really influential.
She told me that they had limited him in their expectations because of their assumption about who he was. It’s funny, now that they have given him the gift of the profile, they said they couldn’t believe that they didn’t see it before and that they totally see the Star – they can’t believe they missed it. Well, maybe that’s because in trying to get him to live as someone else the Star lost his shine and now he’s getting it back again and life is easier, more exciting and definitely more in flow for him.
I wonder how many other young people there are, like Corey, who are struggling because we have judged them for who we think they are or expect them to be instead of who they really are and should be allowed to be?